When it comes to dangerous substances like alcohol, tobacco and other drugs, do not assume your child knows where you stand. In fact, unless you are having regular and open conversations on the subject, Know! that your child is at greater risk for drinking, smoking and using other drugs.
*Make your position on substance use clearly known, that you’re against underage drinking and smoking, the misuse of prescription medications and any use of illicit drugs.
*Firmly state your expectations for your child’s behavior, i.e. “I expect that you will not drink or smoke underage, misuse prescription medications or use any illegal drugs.”
*Provide a brief explanation regarding your stance, “I forbid you to use alcohol, tobacco and other drugs because I love you. It would break my heart if you used drugs of any kind.”
*Save the lecture and stay on topic. While there are many reasons to avoid substance use, that talk is for another time.
*Be clear about the consequences for breaking the rules and consistently enforce, Avoid statements like, “You are never leaving this house again!” Unrealistic, empty threats such as this will only discredit you.
